The Coming Out Thread

[shadowsoul]

(LCU effort)This thread is for members of the forum who are gay, bisexual or bi-curious to come out and say it. the purpose of this thread is to provide a meaningful source on the net where you can actually converse back and forth with others about thoughts that are on your mind regarding sexuality. any advice or serious discussions should always be accompanied by a link to a web page that has OFFICIAL articles supporting your claims.

Please keep in mind that this is a serious thread, so if your not Gay, Bisexual or Bi-Curious (meaning you want to discuss it to gain knowledge) then please don't come-out in this thread. people who are not Gay, Bisexual or Bicurious may converse in this thread, but just type into Hetero with each responce.

and know we begin.


Hi, im Shadowsoul, real name is Derrick and im Gay.

I don't think that a guy who wants his girlfriend to perform anal penetration or anal sex with a strap-on makes him gay. no, it doesn't because she's a girl, the male G-spot is in our b-hinds.

[The Spaghetti Incident?]

*Pulls out his pitch fork*

Guess we better start rounding them up.. Sigh!

[Casino321]

*Pulls out his pitch fork*

Guess we better start rounding them up.. Sigh!

 



I'm staight, but have a great love afair with lesbians 

[shadowsoul]

*Pulls out his pitch fork*

Guess we better start rounding them up.. Sigh!

  The S. Incident, YOUR GAY??? BISEXUAL?? BI-CURIOUS?

[pawnshop-guitars]

I'm staight, but have a great love afair with lesbians 

Agreed. Although the actual Lesbians I have seen are more manly than I am; sadly I think porn has misled us on the whole sapphic scene

a funny point though, two gay people I know seem to be totally against Lesbians. They call them "B&Q" lesbians, and say stuff about they build sheds as hobbies. They say something like the sex they have isn't sex, it's like "they just rub together - are they trying to make fire or something?" Is this a normal attitude for gay people, or just the ones I know?

[Casino321]

Agreed. Although the actual Lesbians I have seen are more manly than I am; sadly I think porn has misled us on the whole sapphic scene

a funny point though, two gay people I know seem to be totally against Lesbians. They call them "B&Q" lesbians, and say stuff about they build sheds as hobbies. They say something like the sex they have isn't sex, it's like "they just rub together - are they trying to make fire or something?" Is this a normal attitude for gay people, or just the ones I know?

1) I know, ther's always one butch one, often two. 

2) I know this gay guy who's almost completely the same. To quote him:

   "I don't mind their being lesbians, I just don't wan't to be privy to what they do" (which seems somewhat contradictory lol)

and he always refers to bi-sexuals as "half-breeds" 

[pawnshop-guitars]

Does he call heterosexuals "breeders"? Or Hettys?

[Casino321]

Does he call heterosexuals "breeders"? Or Hettys?

 

No lol.

Yours?

[russkwtx]

Best t-shirt ever: Nobody knows I'm a lesbian (I'm a guy).
i found it in New Orleans on bourbon street one time but the wife would not let me buy it. I regret not buying it. I would have loved to see the looks on the faces of the 80 year women in our supermarket.

[blython]

You know, Derrick, it takes a lot of guts to just come out like that.

Yeah sure it's an online forum where you'll probably never see these people-- Maybe a concert if Axl ever finds a replacement for Mr. Finck

But seriously dude, I respect that.

Personally, I'm a regular ol' heterosexual white male. But this is kind of a tender subject for me. For years, prime high school years, I was a pretty obese dude. And I don't necessarily look feminine but, there were many times where I was mistaken for a butch.

I had it, and I lost a TON of weight. I'm like 180-190 depending on the week, and it's strange now. I'm pretty athletic despite my unsightly left over fat-- But I'm like playing catch-up. So it's very awkward taking women out. I'm just an awkward guy in general.

But I just get a ton of jokes thrown at me from "friends." Comparing my weight loss to that of a victim of AIDS-- People saying I have a "gay face."

It's pretty crushing to have like at least 4 different women tell me they thought I was gay, when I met them. i don't care about gays doing their own thing, whatever, but it's like oh great--- What the hell am I cursed with, that keeps steady girls away from me.

It's tough, whatever... I get it all of the time, and whatever... I feel just fine with "acting gay" by saying Oh there's an attractive guy, oh he's a great actor, blah blah blah. I'm perfectly comfortable. I used to get the teasing in school too. I had no idea what I did to warrant it. I didn't go around looking like Robin Finck.

Any dude that says he hasn't had a homosexual thought about another man is a fucking liar. It's inevitable. Just by hearing of it, images will be sprung into your head. I don't care for the images. I have no urge to act on the images.

At the end of the day, I long for a classy woman. There's no dispute here, but it seriously is tough and maddening to be mistaken for a gay man every where I go.
---
I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway, by the terms I used, but I just had to throw my story out there. And in a world of ridicule, it's courageous to stand up and shout that your different. 

[abaraxas]

 
Good on you shadowsoul.

[*Estranged*]

Best t-shirt ever: Nobody knows I'm a lesbian (I'm a guy).
i found it in New Orleans on bourbon street one time but the wife would not let me buy it. I regret not buying it. I would have loved to see the looks on the faces of the 80 year women in our supermarket.

Axl Rose wore that shirt on the Illusions tour. It was white with black writing. 

[The Spaghetti Incident?]

The S. Incident, YOUR GAY??? BISEXUAL?? BI-CURIOUS?

Nah mate. But nothing against them!

Hell, Rob Halford is probably the best singer out there. Who could ever hold a grudge against gays?

[ALiX-Rose]

my mom is lesbian. i know alot og gay-guys & lesbians through her.


great respect for actually telling it and posting picture of you on internet forum. 

[shadowsoul]

You know, Derrick, it takes a lot of guts to just come out like that.

Yeah sure it's an online forum where you'll probably never see these people-- Maybe a concert if Axl ever finds a replacement for Mr. Finck

But seriously dude, I respect that.

Personally, I'm a regular ol' heterosexual white male. But this is kind of a tender subject for me. For years, prime high school years, I was a pretty obese dude. And I don't necessarily look feminine but, there were many times where I was mistaken for a butch.

I had it, and I lost a TON of weight. I'm like 180-190 depending on the week, and it's strange now. I'm pretty athletic despite my unsightly left over fat-- But I'm like playing catch-up. So it's very awkward taking women out. I'm just an awkward guy in general.

But I just get a ton of jokes thrown at me from "friends." Comparing my weight loss to that of a victim of AIDS-- People saying I have a "gay face."

It's pretty crushing to have like at least 4 different women tell me they thought I was gay, when I met them. i don't care about gays doing their own thing, whatever, but it's like oh great--- What the hell am I cursed with, that keeps steady girls away from me.

It's tough, whatever... I get it all of the time, and whatever... I feel just fine with "acting gay" by saying Oh there's an attractive guy, oh he's a great actor, blah blah blah. I'm perfectly comfortable. I used to get the teasing in school too. I had no idea what I did to warrant it. I didn't go around looking like Robin Finck.

Any dude that says he hasn't had a homosexual thought about another man is a fucking liar. It's inevitable. Just by hearing of it, images will be sprung into your head. I don't care for the images. I have no urge to act on the images.

At the end of the day, I long for a classy woman. There's no dispute here, but it seriously is tough and maddening to be mistaken for a gay man every where I go.
---
I'm sorry if I offended anyone in anyway, by the terms I used, but I just had to throw my story out there. And in a world of ridicule, it's courageous to stand up and shout that your different. 

Hey, thanks for the respect. Reminds me what i always say to people who i come out to, who seem somewhat reluctant to accept it. i say: i dont expect you do understand it, i dont expect you to accept it, all i expect is respect. i think that people associate feminuity with being Homosexual, when they see it in a guy. but you know, its such a hypocritical world. i remember really fem guys in high school who for some reason weren't called gay... coincidently they where the ones who drove everyone around in their cars... so now i wander why they weren't called gay!?

But Tomboys, girls or woman who seem manly, don't really get as much negative attention as fem guys. everyone has so much masculinity and so much feminuity in them, different levels for different people. But you hit the nail right square on the head and drove it through the wood and out the other side when you said that choosing not to care about others opinions on your natural way of carrying yourself (your feminuity) is better because they will eventually see that you have nothing to hide. you are straight and are comfortable with your sexuality.

Society wants men to be macho and tough but then when we dont stop and cry we`re being pricks. But if we cry we`re being sissies. Men are so emotionally neglected and abused in our society it is not funny.

note to all woman who are reading this and all men who support womans rights and causes:
IM NOT SAYING WOMAN ARENT, IM NOT TALKING ABOUT WOMAN (FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO TALK ABOUT WOMAN ISSUES, TALK) IM TALKING ABOUT MEN. IM A MAN SO I TALK ABOUT MEN. SORRY IF THIS OFFEND`S ANYBODY